PREREQUISITES FOR A GOOD MARRIAGE
1.Pray for God’s leading;
2.Both parties must give their consent even if you think
you’ve prayed through;
3.The woman should let the man take the lead: firstly
because the Almighty says so, secondly because the road to life, eternal life
which begins from here is narrow (Matt7:14) and as such can only take one
person at a time. Doesn’t it then make sense that a physically stronger person
should take the lead and make sure that the coast is clear? As a woman, I don’t
see how this hampers my freedom or dignity when literally every other duty
and activities in the home are hinged on the woman’s wisdom(Prov14:1). No
matter how much we try to discountenance this fact under the guise of feminism,
husband’s need their hero image to feel whole and even perform in bed as
science has proven. So lets lets allow them but fight subjugation and abuses.
4.The man must love the wife;
5.The man must leave(detach from old home) for the new home;
6. Trust must be established if the couple will not wear
out each other with suspicion and rancour
7. The sexual union should consummate the union and be open
to fruit bearing to replenish the earth.
The elevating heartthrob must be reveled in with caution
because humans are given to inconsistencies and can turn our dancing into
mourning. Therefore rather than being just a feeling or a fleshly passion, love
must be, as Robert Bondi puts it, “a disposition that involves whole patterns
and habits of acting, seeing and listening to other people on a day to day
basis”. It must be tested, nurtured and allowed to grow and mature. It is in
this understanding that the journey from sentimental illusion to authentic
affective experience is made and lived.
Pharm(Mrs)
May Ohaedoghasi
Culled
from Marriage A crown and A
rose
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